I don’t have the words…

“language is a broken kettle on which we bang out tunes for bears to dance, while all the while we long to move the stars to pity.” – Flaubert Today is my sister Kathleen’s birthday.  She would have been 30 years old except that she died January 25th and I still don’t know what to say […]

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So often people talk about how somebody looks like another person. Perhaps it’s a celebrity, or a younger/older version of a person or even that they look like a parent or grandparent. Sometimes I see these similarities and other times I think the person I’m talking with has a peculiar way of looking at people…. […]

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Fear & Noise

My youngest daughter, Mila, is scared by loud noises. Today we stopped at a water park in Ohio. We are making our way from Illinois to Connecticut to visit her birth parents and thought staying a night at a water park would be the perfect reprieve. In our room, the girls were happily putting their […]

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Box Scores and Metaphysics

One of my favorite things to do on Saturday and Sunday mornings as a kid was to open up the newspaper, flip to the sports section and check out the previous night’s box scores.  I would analyze the data, look at the league leaders in statistical categories, examine the standings and try to figure out […]

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Raising Kids My Own Way

I wish I had a dollar for every time a friend of mine intimated or straight out said they dislike how religious types blindly and uncritically believe things just because they always have.   I wish I had time to sit and talk with each of them and talk about how much I dislike that very […]

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Prayer as Looking Within

Prayer, for many, is a means of projecting one’s thoughts outward— toward the heavens, toward the holy, toward something Other. We rush to say things to this Other in prayer–we spill words to God, to others, or to ourselves. We find comfort in hearing our own voices, in viewing prayer as a means of communication […]

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Teach Us To Pray

Have you ever said something so much or so often that over time it began to lose meaning? Maybe it happened slowly over time that you didn’t even realize it. Our words carry meaning but when we repeat something over and over it can be easy for us to lose the meaning. I realized a few […]

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Prayer Changes…

When it comes to prayer there are two things that I know are true.  First, I know that we are broken.  Brokenness is not something you need to sell me on.  I see it everywhere and so do you.  When I troll my way through Facebook posts, I hear the yelling of people wanting to […]

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